Causing Trouble With ‘A Taste of Patriarchy’

 

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Are you tired of radical feminists and their war on domesticity? Do you believe that traditional roles aren’t oppressive or that you can be career-oriented AND family-oriented? Then join my sister Anna Maria and I in whipping up “A Taste of Patriarchy.”

Here’s more about our new blog:

Gabriella and I decided to create a blog exclusively about cooking and food advice with a conservative, homemaking twist! The title came to me from the time when Gabriella, our friends, and I were at Virtue Feed and Grain last year, joking about how feminists greatly disdain cooking for your good looking in the kitchen.

We plan to post recipes, food advice, and blog posts that relate to our message, which is to make cooking, family values, classiness, and healthy eating, all together, trendy again! As we do with our site Counter Cultured, we will also focus on using forms of new media to engage others and have them be a part of our mission through videos, photo contests, shared recipes, etc.

We will also tackle nanny statists, radical feminists, and other malcontents who suggest that getting creative in the kitchen encompasses slavery or oppression. Don’t worry — Counter Cultured won’t be affected! In fact, this sister blog will bolster our efforts.

 For those of you who know my sister and I personally, you  can always expect us to cause some trouble. ;)
If you mess with me, you best believe
That you’re gonna be asking for trouble…
- “Trouble” by Gloriana

LIKE us on Facebook and follow the blog at @tastypatriarchy.
We eagerly await your involvement! Stay tuned for more updates this weekend.

Bucking the Trend on Halloween: #FlannelFriday-Inspired Costume

There’s this bizarre expectation for women to wear “sexy” costumes every Halloween. There’s the “sexy” maid, “sexy” nurse, “sexy” witch, “sexy” whatever. “Sexy” suggests one has to be provocative, sleazy, or slutty (oooo, I said a dirty word!). Why can’t sexiness be seen in being wholesome, creative, and modest? (And no–don’t assume this means you have to be frumpy!)

Admittedly, I haven’t dressed up for Halloween since I was 18 during my freshman year of college. I feel as if I’ve outgrown the holiday as I’ve gotten older. However, a work-related party calls for dressing up. (Why not have fun?) So I decided to channel a #FlannelFriday look for my office party today.

Can you guess what I am? (Hint: it involves fishing!) Why did I choose this outfit? It’s comfortable, it’s classy, and it reflects who I am as an individual: an outdoorsy girl to the core.

I have to give credit to Bass Pro Shops for inspiring this Halloween getup:

There are other fantastic DIY Halloween costume ideas out there from others who are FAR more creative than I am.

I love reading fashion blogger and fellow OC native Lauren Conrad’s blog posts, especially her Halloween posts. She designs classy costumes each year and really outdid herself with a mermaid costume this year. Verily Magazine also profiled some great Halloween costume ideas in a post “Clever No-Sew Halloween Costume Ideas.

Are “sexy” Halloween costumes passe? Do they tire you? Weigh in below.

Happy Halloween!

More Power to Millennials Getting Married in Their 20s

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Who says Millennials–young adults ages 18-33–are balking marriage? Quite the contrary!

This past weekend, I had the pleasure of attending the wedding of two young conservatives who are very close friends of mine. Let me introduce you to the newly minted Mr. and Mrs. Meyer!

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Congratulations to the newly minted Mr. and Mrs. Ron Meyer! #CeliaAndRonFromThisDayOn

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I love seeing my friends get married.  I attended two weddings this past year–a West Virginia wedding for my dear friend Angela in July and the aforementioned Virginia wedding this past weekend. It truly warms my heart that more Millennials are realizing that the institution of marriage is not a lost cause–or an institution rooted in slavery as some women have claimed. (Yes, some hold this bizarre belief that marriage is slavery.)

Notwithstanding, people–particularly Millennials–shouldn’t fear or loathe marriage. In fact, they should look forward to it one day. (I wrote about this subject in an article titled “We Should Look Forward to Marriage” for Marriage Generation in May 2013.) Though few of my close friends have taken the plunge, I expect more of them–myself included–to experience marriage in the future.

Though today’s culture reduces marriage to planning the ‘perfect’ wedding, having the ‘perfect’ diamond ring, and saying “Yes to the Dress,” many Millennials thankfully refuse to cheapen the institution.

A March article in Forbes highlighted this trend:

Once, marriage was seen as a “cornerstone” in life. Today’s Millennials see it more as a “capstone.” The marriage rate among 20-somethings may be at an all-time low, but not for lack of desire.

Due to many factors — a lackluster economy, radical feminism, marriage redefinition, divorce, infidelity, etc. – Millennials are skeptical about jumping into marriage. Those of us who regard the institution highly don’t want to settle for less or get divorced, so we delay marriage. Others wait until they’re financially secure to take the plunge. Whatever a Millennial’s reason to delay marriage, have discernment, practice delayed gratification, and remember to love yourself before you can love someone else.

To my fellow Millennials who are newly hitched or engaged–thank you for proving that marriage is still worth pursuing!

Stop Disparaging Female Anglers and Hunters

“Marry an outdoors woman. Then if you throw her out into the yard on a cold night, she can still survive.” - W.C. Fields

The relentless attacks on female anglers and hunters have gone too far.

From threats targeted at 19-year-old huntress Kendall Jones to 17-year-old Belgian teen Axelle Despiegelaere, anti-hunters–usually insecure leftist males–are calling on others to inflict harm onto young women who are self-reliant and independent.

This guy, who calls himself an “Agitated Texas Republican,” says women who hunt are ignorant and blood-thirsty. (Talk about elevating women!)

Another tweeted that hunting is out-of-date: “Hunting is so 1914! It stopped with Teddy Roosevelt!”

Attacking women who choose to fish and hunt hurts, rather than helps, females realize their potential. What happened to being pro-choice?

New York Post’s Eliyahu Federman wrote an article titled “The ignorant, sexist attacks on female hunters” to showcase the hypocrisy of guys who disparage female anglers and hunters. Here’s an excerpt:

1) Their hunting was perfectly legal. As a spokesperson for Jones pointed out, “All of Kendall’s hunts in Zimbabwe and South Africa were 100 percent legal, with proper tags and licenses awarded on a pre-approved quota by the countries’ officials and wildlife department.”

No, “legal” isn’t the same as “moral,” but attacking these young women in personal terms for lawful hunting is pointless. If you have a problem with big-game hunting, change the laws, don’t mindlessly attack individuals.

2) Hunting helps support poor local African communities. People magazine reported how Jones paid $160,000 in fees and services “provided by local trackers, skinners and assistants.” That money went to provide jobs, incomes and food in destitute parts of Zimbabwe and South Africa. Trophy hunting provides meat to local villagers and generates an estimated $200 million a year in revenue in poor countries in Africa and elsewhere.

3) African hunting helps conservation. It is poaching that poses a threat, not lawful hunting. In fact, the operators of hunting conservancies fight poaching to “protect the wildlife resources on which they depend.”

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4) Animals aren’t people. Sport hunting isn’t murder, no matter how much some detest it.

5) Hunters are often middle-aged men, but the brunt of online outrage seems directed at young attractive women like Jones, Despiegelaer, Melissa Bachman, Olivia Opre, and Sarah Palin, not the male “Duck Dynasty” types. Sure looks like sexism.

Fishing and hunting are essential to sustainability and conservation. These activities promote the environment and encourage stewardship. The majority of fishermen and hunters abide by laws. Our license fees and investments in gear/equipment support charities and wildlife conservation efforts. What’s the harm in revering and replenishing nature? (Answer: Nothing!)

Even left-leaning National Geographic has praised and acknowledged the rise of female hunters:

Hunters are also quick to note that funds from purchases of licenses, equipment, and ammunition go to support conservation efforts for a variety of species. According to the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service, every year nearly $200 million is distributed from the federal taxes associated with hunting to support wildlife management programs, the purchase of lands for habitat conservation, and hunter education and safety classes.

There’s another factor, too: fun. Hunting is a way for women to be outdoors and enjoy nature while spending time with husbands and children who hunt.

“Women are realizing how much fun hunting is and how close it can actually bring them in their relationships with their families,” says Tiffany Lakosky, co-host of the Outdoor Channel hunting show Crush with Lee and Tiffany and a top bowhunter. “The whole concept is that I am shooting my family’s dinner tonight and we’re eating something I shot. I would say probably 90 percent of the meat we eat, we hunted.”

Whether or not you agree with fishing or big game hunting, be mindful that anglers and hunters are people too. We have feelings, compassion, and are fallible. (After all, we’re human.) Despite what the naysayers say, we respect our surroundings. We love nature. We want more empowered women and men. We don’t appreciate being pidgeonholed and threatened by jerks who have little to no regard for personal safety or tolerance of different beliefs. In fact, these attacks only encourage us to take up gun ownership and continue to speak out in favor of our beliefs.

Fellow female anglers and hunters: Don’t become disheartened by our detractors. Instead, go confidently in the right direction to enjoy the outdoors.

Saying Children Deserve a Mother and a Father is Bigotry?

Who knew that saying kids fare better with a mother and a father is a dangerous, bigoted concept?

Apparently tweeting support for natural marriage is hate-filled, unadulterated, and dangerous.

Case in point:

Disclosure: I support marriage between a man and a woman. (Gasp!) Anyone who’s known me since my high school days knows that I’ve held this view and don’t plan to change it. Religion isn’t telling me to believe this; I’ve done my own research, reading, and thinking to conclude this. If you disagree with these views, that’s perfectly fine. We have a beautiful right called the First Amendment. You’re entitled to your opinion, as I am entitled to mine. Respectful disagreement is perfectly acceptable. However, when you start painting mere disagreement of views as “bigotry” or “discriminatory,” I, like so many others, can’t take you seriously. How does reducing the exchange of ideas to ad hominem attacks encourage dialogue and strengthen our society? It doesn’t. You look foolish and desperate. Additionally, how do these people suppose they suppress our “dangerous, bigoted” thoughts? Implanting a microchip into our brains? Asking the NSA to spy on us? Bolshevized re-education? Sending the IRS on us?

Asking government to ban or discourage alternative views is not the solution. We’ve become so desensitized as a society that every conservative, anti-big government, religious, or pro-free market view is now perceived as racist, bigoted, and discriminatory. This is ridiculous.

Voltaire said, “I do not agree with what you have to say, but I’ll defend to the death your right to say it.” Be good stewards of freedom and discourse, not lackeys of statism and tyranny.

New Counter Cultured Article: 10 Ways to Survive in D.C. Without Losing Your Soul

My sister and I compiled this listicle at Counter Cultured on how millennials can survive in D.C. without becoming a part of the problem. Below is an excerpt:

 

Having lived in the area for some time now, we decided to compile a listicle of advice on how to succeed in D.C. All of these points are based on our own experiences and observations. We hope this list inspires others to reform the swamp from within, through the power of their character, honesty, and decency.

1. Keep your principles.

Have you ever been told to moderate your views to be accepted in the D.C. area? Don’t listen to this nonsense. D.C. culture is mysterious, exciting, and at times, scandalous. Someone will try to chide you for your beliefs. Don’t submit to them–especially if they’re an apologist for cronyism or big government. Don’t be fake; be yourself! We encourage you to stay true to your beliefs. People–especially prospective employers–appreciate honesty rather than feigned passion. Be passionate about conservatism, and don’t hold back your views. Don’t compromise your values either.


Picture2. There’s more to life than cocktail parties.

We certainly appreciate the art of imbibing here in the D.C. area, but recommend you don’t make it a daily ritual. (Remember, you’ve got a bank account balance to maintain!) As millennials, we’re inclined to try new things. Don’t simply stick to happy hours. Be SOCIALLY conservative and encourage your fellow political friends to try new things with you. Now that summer has started, go see a concert, attend festivals, try salsa dancing, host a cook-off, or get lost in one of the many museums here. Be spontaneous!

3. Don’t take advantage of your boss to get ahead.

Unfortunately, it’s commonplace for young men and women to sleep with their superiors in hopes of getting a higher, better-paid position in this town, especially on the Hill. Ladies and gentlemen, we kindly suggest you don’t fall for this one. Set yourself apart from others when you’re advancing your career by emphasizing your talents, abilities, and accomplishments to potential employers instead. Merit is a much better sell than fulfilling sexual favors when it comes to a job promotion.

4. Go outside the concrete jungle.

D.C. can be a wild, crazy place. (It’s a swamp, after all.) However, if you’re looking for more thrills than barhopping or attending a Congressional hearing, go to the outdoors. Scout out nearby lakes, rivers, beaches, and trails. Go fishing, shoot some guns at the range, hike in the Shenandoah Valley, explore wine country, and check out the Chesapeake Bay. Looking to be more adventurous? Road-trip to one of the six states neighboring the DMV. Get some fresh air and deplug for a day or two.

Continue reading at Counter Cultured.

New Counter Cultured Article: Self-Defense Doesn’t Perpetuate ‘Rape Culture’

I’ve penned a new column at Counter Cultured called, “Self-Defense Doesn’t Perpetuate ‘Rape Culture‘” today.

Here’s an excerpt:

Last week at the Miss USA pageant, newly-crowned winner Nia Sanchez was accused of promoting “rape culture” after answering a question about sexual assault on college campuses.

Sanchez responded with the following:

I believe that some colleges may potentially be afraid of having a bad reputation and that would be a reason it could be swept under the rug, because they don’t want that to come out into the public,” Nia Sanchez said. “But I think more awareness is very important so women can learn how to protect themselves. Myself, as a fourth-degree black belt, I learned from a young age that you need to be confident and be able to defend yourself. And I think that’s something that we should start to really implement for a lot of women.

Her response angered radical feminists.

Twitter user @hayleethikeo tweeted, “sorry miss Nevada. we do not need to teach women how to better defend ourselves. We need to teach men not to feel entitled to rape #missusa.”

Elissa Benson of Cosmopolitan tweeted, “I get that the college sexual assault problem can’t be solved in 30 secs but still icky to pretend like self defense is the answer. #MissUSA

Despite negative backlash, Nia Sanchez stood by her response. She went on HuffPoLive to reaffirm her answer about women taking up self-defense:

We have 30 seconds to answer a question. I feel like all you can do up on that stage on national television is answer the best you personally know how, so I answered with something that I know. I always believe in women empowerment and women’s encouragement and for me, in my life, that’s self-defense,” she explained. “Maybe for somebody else it’s a Taser or something else, but that’s the way I could relate to it personally.

The question beckons: What is “rape culture” and what does it consist of?